Message on Day of Love

The absence of love is the root cause of all problems.

And the cause is not very far. It in fact lies in each individual. It is the inner condition of the individual, that is resulting in the condition of the collective. Every endeavour in life is only a pursuit for love. As a child one was unhappy, because he/she wanted to love him/her alone. Much later the search continued in school with teachers, spouse and the with one's children. So life has remained one long process of waiting. Often one tests his/her near and dear ones for what one calls real love and lands up feeling dissatified and angry.

What people think of as love is merely asking, craving and emploring for love. This 'asking' for love is what one thinks is love. The consequence is frustration, annoyance and desparation.

Every individual has a void inside. To fill the void one uses relationships. The person constantly needs to feel loved whereby he/she tends to be possessive in relationships. Where love is possession there is always the fear of losing it. One destriys his/her freedom and everybody else's freedom. An act of fear us claimed to be love! The truth is people don't love themselves and relationships is a means to love oneself. They try to fulfill themselves through relationships.

All love could only begin with love for oneself. Know that you could do only to others what you do unto yourself. Contemplating on it one would discover that the way one relates to oneself internally is exactly the way he/she relates to others. If an individual condemned and criticized himself for every thought, word or deed of his, he would certainly do the same to others also. If one was obsessed and disturbed with his/her own shortcomings, then he/she would trouble others as well about theur shortcomings too. When one stops warring with oneself and accepts himself/herself as he/she is, then one is in love with oneself. Ones has made peace withing and hence with the world. One would discover that love is the essence of the universe. It's one true nature.

Sri Amma